Truth and Conundrum

I feel that some times reading and learning too much too early about our track record of societal ignorances on earth can make any one person miserly in the future. As can preferring solitude and or living alone. For solitude lets us see ourselves plainly and simply which essentially is a huge prerequisite to befriending, understanding and eventually loving that person we finally allow ourselves to be. If we are able to see ourselves plainly then we too should be able to see others simply as well. In this way I no longer can accept much dishonesty in my life, not from my relationships nor from myself, so I no longer tolerate it in others.

However the concept of truth has ambiguous effects in our relationships. I tell the truth as I see it because I feel I have to. It's a punishment and reward for coming to gather the strength and courage to face myself and those around me. However, there is some pieces of falicy when saying that people can't deal well with the truth, especially when it comes from others. This few will accept, much less embrace the absurdity of the human condition when its put there by someone else, the truth is something that we need to tell ourselves, to find in our own hearts which partly explains, why people take it occasionally in an offensive manner. Moreover, the offensive reaction of truth from others reflects our past and its success in telling us what we WANT to hear as opposed to telling us what we NEED to hear. Its evident our generations are shifting and going through radical changes of perspectives which gives me at least a glimmer of hope that lifetimes of holding it all in or being held in states of suspended animation, when holding back information that is crucial to the actual mental state and quality of that persons life, is slowing.

With this shift of perspective comes one of the most fundamental concepts to individual fulfillment, a strong sense of self-reliance. It assumes full responsibility of one's emotional well-being, rather than those attachments to work, friends, family, or any demands of society, and embracing our uniqueness and individuality for the majority is a hard thing to do and to accept. Sometimes to me it seems that people have drifted so far away from what they really are at heart and mind and choose run away from themselves, because the truth of their embodiment maybe isn't all what they expect out of themselves. For this I blame our mental equanimity of being brought up with a 'hidden' subconscious believe that our fulfillment lies in others, that whatever the cost, others are essential to the equation, that without them, our lives simply don't add up. I can't speak for society, but my value is my own. It comes from a deep emotional powerful conclusion that I hold to be true about myself that concludes my personal validation.

Overall, injecting truth and honesty into our interpersonal relationships and the relationships with ourselves has liberating effects, ones which bring us closer to ourselves and those people and things we choose to surround ourselves with.